It's not with a sense of achievement I write this but with a sense of astonishment that I compute and confirm 5 years of matrimonied living..5 years back ...this very day...the loud chime of wedding bells rang and deafened my 'singular' existence into non-existence. The word 'married woman' always reminds me of the term 'domesticated cow' wonder why? But words apart, the experience called marriage has been milked off its last drops uniformly by writers, movie makers and 'forward writers' (definition - the anonymous set of people who write/forward e-mail forwards)..so much has been written/seen that I cannot write anything that has not been heard of...but I guess every person brings in a new shade to these cliched experiences..I am attempting to bring in my own perspective I guess...
The first thing about matrimony for a woman (yes she toooo) is the loss of that crown called 'single independent woman'..now that's a word that bloats your individuality....its a coveted title and no woman likes to let go without the cat fight...she tries tactics but ultimately the gavel of society brings down the judgement that the crown must go !!Once that title is ripped off, you are next faced with the ultimate challenge of changing your name..now that's a thought that doesn't mix with my sense of logic.. A name is your tag on your years of existence..it's like your face....would you agree to change your face after marriage, would you recognise yourself in the mirror? Its the same with your name, would you respond to a salutation that has never been heard before?
After these modalities are sorted out, you plunge into the black hole called marriage.. all the years of research and history does not shed any light on this institution...the research papers dispute each other and have failed to arrive at a common coverging description or solution. You have to fend for yourself in this carnival, the whole performance is rather an 'in promptu'..sans script, props and prompter....the two 'star' performers are thrown into the 'ring' or 'stage' (as the situation demands)..you can choose to write your story as the plot unfolds...the script is purely your invention ..you are at liberty to bring in your 'point of view' into the story's trajectory..you are also permitted to take dramatic turns mid-way...but of course the performance holds as long as your partner complements, follows and doesn't take the contradictory path...a few slip-ups, a few messed up lines do not 'damageth' a play..nor does a few spunky dialogues 'maketh' the play.. only consistent scintillating performances by both parties , a few twists and turns, a dash of humour ..all held together by an ethical 'charactered' plot and script..that's surely the success factor for this performance to skyscrape into the 'best marriage charts'...the performers have to face the wrath of critics (read as strangers who love to share uninvited opinions), the intrusion of 'unwanted' characters who form more the prop than the play and of course need to keep together the performance through bad weather days and foul mood moments.Its a test of the performers' breeding, patience, ego, character, fun factor and of course the grand father of all traits - adaptability :)....for now I guess ....The Show must go on....the curtains would never come down ...we have to keep the show running and that too full house for the years to come!
The first thing about matrimony for a woman (yes she toooo) is the loss of that crown called 'single independent woman'..now that's a word that bloats your individuality....its a coveted title and no woman likes to let go without the cat fight...she tries tactics but ultimately the gavel of society brings down the judgement that the crown must go !!Once that title is ripped off, you are next faced with the ultimate challenge of changing your name..now that's a thought that doesn't mix with my sense of logic.. A name is your tag on your years of existence..it's like your face....would you agree to change your face after marriage, would you recognise yourself in the mirror? Its the same with your name, would you respond to a salutation that has never been heard before?
After these modalities are sorted out, you plunge into the black hole called marriage.. all the years of research and history does not shed any light on this institution...the research papers dispute each other and have failed to arrive at a common coverging description or solution. You have to fend for yourself in this carnival, the whole performance is rather an 'in promptu'..sans script, props and prompter....the two 'star' performers are thrown into the 'ring' or 'stage' (as the situation demands)..you can choose to write your story as the plot unfolds...the script is purely your invention ..you are at liberty to bring in your 'point of view' into the story's trajectory..you are also permitted to take dramatic turns mid-way...but of course the performance holds as long as your partner complements, follows and doesn't take the contradictory path...a few slip-ups, a few messed up lines do not 'damageth' a play..nor does a few spunky dialogues 'maketh' the play.. only consistent scintillating performances by both parties , a few twists and turns, a dash of humour ..all held together by an ethical 'charactered' plot and script..that's surely the success factor for this performance to skyscrape into the 'best marriage charts'...the performers have to face the wrath of critics (read as strangers who love to share uninvited opinions), the intrusion of 'unwanted' characters who form more the prop than the play and of course need to keep together the performance through bad weather days and foul mood moments.Its a test of the performers' breeding, patience, ego, character, fun factor and of course the grand father of all traits - adaptability :)....for now I guess ....The Show must go on....the curtains would never come down ...we have to keep the show running and that too full house for the years to come!
